As years gone by, tens and thousands of Muslim men emigrated from the east to the west. They end up marrying non-Muslim women of different nationalities. Upon marrying these women, these men fulfilled their wishes of attaining residency and get benefited financially. However, this interfaith marriage in Islam, ended up creating significant problems as well.
As these ‘Muslim’ men and non-Muslim women gave birth to children, things became even more complicated. Eventually disputes arose and they got separated, this caused the kids to be raised by a single parent, most notably, the mother. Hence, these kids are brought up without any teachings of Islam.
Who are Muslim men allowed to marry? Is it only permissible for me to consider a Muslim woman for Marriage?
|Muslim men are only permissible to marry either chaste Muslim women or chaste women belonging to the Ahl al-kitab (People of the book) i.e. Christians & Jews. Both of them need to be religious & must worship, Allah (SWT); the one true God. They can never be polytheists i.e. Hindus. While, these women cannot be lewd in behavior, neither can have boyfriends or be promiscuous.|
The Ruling of Interfaith Marriage in Islam
Within the holy Quran, there are two verses that makes up the basis of who Muslim men can get to marry. These are –
- Surah al Baqarah; Verse 221
Can a Muslim man marry a non-Muslim woman?
Here Allah SWT clearly mentions that a Muslim man should rather marry a Muslim slave than someone who happens to be a polytheist. Even if these polytheists are eligible and attractive, Muslim men should refrain from marrying them.
Only if a polytheist submits herself after being shown the holy Quran, its scriptures and once she believes in the truth after having converted to Islam, can a Muslim man marry her.
Therefore, it is prohibited for a Muslim man to marry a woman who is either a Buddhist, Hindu or Sikh.
*Polytheist: Someone who worships multiple Gods.
Can a Muslim Women marry a non-Muslim man?
The same is not applicable for women. Women are prohibited from marrying either polytheist (non-Muslim men) or men belonging to Ahl al-kitab (people of the book)
- Surah al Maaidah; Verse 5
Allah SWT explains in this verse, how the food consumed by the Ahl al-kitab (people of the book) is Halal (lawful) to be consumed by Muslims. In a similar manner, their women are Halal (lawful) to get married to Muslim men. Provided that these women convert to Islam.
To conclude; in an Islamic marriage, both the potentials partners should be Muslim men and women. Also; they MUST believe that there is not God but Allah SWT. Ideal spouses should also behave virtuously and hold righteous standards.
Can a Muslim marry a non Muslim? Are Christians considered as – Ahl al-kitab/ People of the book?
A large number of Muslim men nowadays emigrate to the west and consider women within that region as Ahl al-kitab. Therefore, these men end up marrying these western women.
Largely because these women had ancestors who were Christians, having Christian surnames and resided in countries with Christian populations. So, these men presume such Christian women are eligible for marriage.
However, in today’s society, most of these Christian women living in the west are not practicing Christians at all. Rather, the majority of these women are secular and they might have never visited the church.
These women possess a Christian identity and have their heritage. Although, they are only Christians by name. These so-called ‘Christian’ women have secular beliefs and deny the existence of God, altogether.
But there exists a small number of women, who sincerely practice Christianity. However, majority of the practicing ‘Christian’ women believe ‘the Trinity’. They believe in God the Father God the holy Spirit & God the Son
Allah SWT specifically mentioned within the holy Quran –
People who hold the notion of ‘the Trinity’ are disbelievers and will have a painful end.
|لَقَد كَفَرَ الَّذينَ قالوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ ثالِثُ ثَلاثَةٍ ۘ وَما مِن إِلٰهٍ إِلّا إِلٰهٌ واحِدٌ ۚ وَإِن لَم يَنتَهوا عَمّا يَقولونَ لَيَمَسَّنَّ الَّذينَ كَفَروا مِنهُم عَذابٌ أَليمٌ|
They have certainly disbelieved who say, “Allah is the third of three.”1 And there is no god except one God. And if they do not desist from what they are saying, there will surely afflict the disbelievers among them a painful punishment.
. Quran 5:73-
Only do the Unitarians & the rest of the Christians faiths truly believe in oneness. These are the people who can be taken as Ahl al-kitab (people of the book).
But, these are a very small number of people.
As mentioned in Surah al Maaidah; Allah SWT says –
People having the belief that Jesus happens to be the son of Allah SWT and then proceeds with calling other people to have the same belief ends up wrongly associating Allah SWT would not be able to enter heaven. Furthermore, they will not be provided with any sorts of help and enter hellfire.
|لَقَد كَفَرَ الَّذينَ قالوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ هُوَ المَسيحُ ابنُ مَريَمَ ۖ وَقالَ المَسيحُ يا بَني إِسرائيلَ اعبُدُوا اللَّهَ رَبّي وَرَبَّكُم ۖ إِنَّهُ مَن يُشرِك بِاللَّهِ فَقَد حَرَّمَ اللَّهُ عَلَيهِ الجَنَّةَ وَمَأواهُ النّارُ ۖ وَما لِلظّالِمينَ مِن أَنصارٍ|
They have certainly disbelieved who say, “Allah is the Messiah, the son of Mary” while the Messiah has said, “O Children of Israel, worship Allah, my Lord and your Lord.” Indeed, he who associates others with Allah – Allah has forbidden him Paradise, and his refuge is the Fire. And there are not for the wrongdoers any helpers.
So, Christians who believe in ‘the Trinity’ are polytheists. Such kinds of people, due to their beliefs are strictly prohibited to marry either Muslim men or women.
To summarize, only a minority of women residing in the west belonging to the western societies are eligible to marry a Muslim man. This is largely due to their false & secular beliefs.
Regardless of all these, a vast majority of ‘Muslim ‘men today, end up emigrating to west and commit themselves to women who they are not eligible to marry, according to Islamic beliefs.
Can I marry someone from a different religion?
Marrying either a Jew, a Christian or a Polytheists was largely disliked by the companions of Prophet Muhammad SAW
Marrying either pagan or polytheist women
Ibn Abbas (RA) a renowned narrator of Hadith; the cousin of Prophet Muhammad SAW (PBUH), mentioned that once the ayah below was revealed, Muslim men stopped marrying Pagan women.
To marry a Christian woman
Abdullah Ibn Umar (RA), a renowned narrator of Hadith; son of Umar Ibn Khattab specifically mentioned, to not marry Christian women.
|وَلَا تَنكِحُواْ ٱلۡمُشۡرِكَـٰتِ حَتَّىٰ يُؤۡمِنَّۚ|
And do not marry idolatresses until they are believers.
Quran 2: 221
|‘I do not know a worse example of Shirk than that of a wife mentioning that Jesus is her Lord’|
Abdullah Ibn Umar (RA)
Having a good heart while serving bridal Mahr
It has been mentioned within verse 5 of Surah al Maaidah; a newly married wife of Ahl al-kitab (people of the book) must be provided with Mahr (bridal price) while maintaining a good heart.
|إِذَآ ءَاتَيۡتُمُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ|
‘When you have given them their due’
Surah al Maaidah; Verse 5
Numerous companions of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) himself mentioned that if the newly married wife has sexual intercourse, before the marriage got exemplified, in such a scenario, that marriage needs to be cancelled and the Mahr that was given needs to be returned.
If Muslim women, consider marrying Muslim men who are immodest
When it comes to Muslim women choosing a husband. If her potential partner happens to be promiscuous, shows lewd behavior while and has secret lovers, then she should abstain from marrying the individual. Because, he is not considered Halal (lawful) for marriage.
The verse below, as mentioned in Surah al Maaidah; verse 5, it is applicable for Muslim men as well as Muslim women.
|مُحْصِنِينَ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحِينَ وَلَا مُتَّخِذِي أَخْدَانٍ|
‘…being chaste not being lewd and not ones (who are) taking secret lovers.’
Surah al Maaidah; verse 5
Types of problem that Muslim men face while they consider marrying a non-Muslim woman
Nowadays, Muslim men generally considers marrying a non-Muslim woman, due to the following reasons –
- Due to passion
- To attain residency & passport
- As these Muslim men come to unknown territories, they end up meeting a woman, who is a local of that country and becomes weak towards her. As these men feels passionate for these woman, he decided to marry her. These men have the idea that the girl being Christian, is Ahl al-kitab (people of the book).
He also starts thinking that it would be possible for him to convert these women to Muslims.
- Hundreds of thousands of Muslim men nowadays travel to the west to attain financial stability or to attain citizenship. One straightforward and quick way these men can achieve their goals is to simply marry women, who happen to be native of that region.
Their idea is to attain nationality in this process. After marriage, these men tend to be granted residency within a duration of 2 years and receive their passport within a maximum of 3 years’ time. They consider this as the easiest route to attaining their target.
As a result of the 2 aforementioned reasons, there exists several reasons for which problems may arise. These are –
- Happens to be a non-believer
- Is alcoholic and shows immorality
- Has a family that shows hate towards Islam
- Happens to be a strong believer of ‘the Trinity’
- Raises their children based on secular beliefs
- Suddenly abandons and divorces her husband
- Once married, disrespects Islam and its teachings
- Is divorced and has children from a previous marriage
- Forbids the children from following the teachings of Islam
- Brings up her children by having a grudge against their father
- Educates their children unethical behavior & also tells them to hate Islam
- At a point decides to divorce the husband without having any valid reason
To begin with, a lot of these Muslim men who emigrated to the west had a weak faith and they truly did not have a proper understanding of Islam. All they wanted was to make a lot of fortune in a short space of time.
This has led to them taking very poor decisions and the consequences have been dire. All they end up doing is, selling their faith and Islam in return of mere worldly rewards.
A scenario when a non-Muslim wife ends up becoming better than their ‘Muslim’ counterparts
On the flip side, there are cases when a Muslim man married a non-Muslim woman, who agreed to follow the teachings of Islam and converted to a Muslim. These women turn out to be very practicing Muslims and get to understand Islam, very well.
In may be the case, the ‘Muslim’ husband started getting further away from Islam to the point where they did not even fulfill the obligatory prayers. These women had converted to Islam upon the request of her husband. Later on her husband’s weakness and hypocrisy got exposed in the process, when it came to following the rules and teachings of Islam.
In reality, there’s no real solution if you’re a Muslim man and is committed to a non-Muslim woman with whom you have children in the west. Although, if you had considered Interfaith marriage in Islam within Muslim country under the ruling of Islamic marriage laws, then, you could’ve had things under your favor.
If things aren’t under your control, then, it would be wise for you to be patient, seek Allah’s refuge and always ask for Allah’s forgiveness. You should always try to make things work out in a positive manner, be it for your spouse or her family. If you’re a Muslim, unmarried man, then, you should never forget to seek the refuge of Allah SWT and have trust in his plans.
You should always try your utmost to practice Islam and its teachings as closely as possible and make sure to only marry a Muslim woman or a woman from the Ahl al-kitab (people of the book), someone who is keen to convert to a Muslim.