Ramadan is the month of blessing, and getting married is itself a blessing. How about combining these two blessings together? Can you get married during Ramadan?
There is no restriction for people to get married in this holy month. However, scholars as well as wise individuals suggest not to get married in Ramadan.
So, if you are a young individual, and thinking about whether you can get married in Ramadan or not, this article has a lot to inform you about this.
Can You Get Married During Ramadan?
There’s nothing wrong with getting married in Ramadan. In fact, there’s no restriction to get married in any other month or on a specific day whatsoever. It is permissible on any day and any moment of the year.
But, don’t jump to a conclusion yet. Because marrying in Ramadan comes with consequences that are pretty heavy.
Immediately after marriage, the temptation and affection between a husband and wife stays at its peak. Accidents (intercourse) can happen while fasting, and it will end up giving expensive expiation.
As this month is all about spirituality, and refraining from eating, drinking, and having intercourse during the day, having a newly-wed wife can cause issues controlling one’s desire. And this can happen from the wife as well.
But if someone is certain that he will not have intercourse whatsoever during the day while fasting, then this shouldn’t be any problem.
However, still Ramadan isn’t the perfect time for getting married. It is the month of worship. And when you bring your newly married wife, you would want to spend all day and night with her.
Usually, it happens that during a few months after getting married, it’s hard for a regular person to focus on his/her regular worships. Even though you pray 5 times a day, still the chances are high that your heart won’t sit for the prayer, your focus will be in the house where your wife is. And this is very common, and there’s nothing wrong with it as long as it doesn’t restrain someone from doing the obligatory worship.
Based on that, you may not feel spiritually high just after getting married in Ramdan. Your fasting will be more like dry-fasting, without any dhikr, devotion, and remembrance to Allah SWT. You may also end up missing the taraweeh prayer.
If you are a practising Muslim the value of Ramadan is clear to you than a regular Muslim. Still if you get married in Ramadan, it will highly affect your worship and devotion to your Lord. That can be the worst Ramadan you would ever experience.
Therefore, it is best to avoid marriage during Ramadan for the sake of fasting in a proper manner with full devotion to your Lord the most high.
When Marrying in Ramadan Will Not Affect
Just after marriage, if the husband and wife do not live together, or the husband stays in the office or a factory or away from home for business, then there will not be such affection and desire between people. If this is the case, you have no reason to delay the marriage. Getting married in Ramadan will not affect your devotion, fasting, and other worship.
Can You Kiss Your Wife During Ramadan?
As far as kissing on the cheek or her skin, there should not be a problem.
But if you are someone who cannot control the desire, you should restrain yourself from doing anything like this.
Aa’isha Radiallahu Anha said –
“The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to kiss and be intimate when fasting, and he was the most able of you to control his desire.” [Al Bukhari and Muslim]
Keep in mind the intimacy here is not referring to the intercourse.
Can Married Couple Have Sex During Ramadan?
A couple can enjoy each other by having intercourse during the night in Ramadan. But, during the day, while fasting, it is a major sin to have intercourse.
If someone does this forbidden act, he will have to free a slave, or fast for two consecutive months, or feed 60 poor persons. So, the expiation for breaking obligatory fast in Ramadan without any legit reason including having intercourse is pretty strict and hard.
Is it OK to get married during Ramadan?
It is permissible to get married in Ramadan, and on any day in a year. There is no restriction whatsoever. But, as after marriage, temptations and affections is the highest, it is not suggested to get married in this month of worship and spiritual devotion.
What is forbidden during Ramadan?
Primarily, there are 6 things that invalidate fasting, and those forbidden things are –
- Having intercourse
- Eating or drinking, and anything that come under this category
- Cupping or letting blood out
- Vomiting deliberately
- Blood of nifas and menses
- Can you be in a relationship during Ramadan?
During Ramadan, Muslims aren’t even allowed to do permissible things while fasting like eating, drinking, having intercourse, etc. Engaging in a haram relationship during Ramadan is unquestionable compared to those. It is a major sin, and it gets even worse if someone is engaged in such a thing during Ramadan.
Can I do foreplay in Ramadan?
Embracing wife, kissing her, and so on is permissible even during fasting in Ramadan. However, if someone is weak, meaning he cannot control his desire, he should stay away from foreplay because it might make him ejaculate or have intercourse.
Love, affection, and temptation become severe just after getting married. A newly married couple are highly suggested to spend a few weeks together to make the bonding strong. However, if it’s in Ramadan, it will be so difficult for both the husband and wife to control their desire. That’s why it would be better to delay the marriage when Ramadan ends.
So, can you get married during Ramadan? Hope the answer is clear if you have made it this far.